Tag Archive: how to give advice

Jan 28

Wisdom Nugget-A Key to Effective Communication:Listen First

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by Bernard Uzi Weingarten   Ever wonder how to really help somebody when they come to you for advice? This story of a conversation I had with Sam, a long-time friend, illustrates one of the important keys of skillful, effective communication. Sam was telling me about his strained relationship with his brothers. “They keep me at …

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Oct 23

Effective Communication: Knock Before Entering Don’t Give Advice Before You Do This One Thing—Part 2

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So you already know that one of the key skills of giving advice is Ask or Have. That is, either Ask Permission to give advice or Have an Invitation. (You can read the first part this article here: Part 1.) That being said, there is a skillful and less skillful way to Ask Permission. Sometimes …

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Sep 23

Effective Communication:Knock Before Entering Before You Give Advice Be Sure To Do This One Thing–Part 1

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Imagine that you enter somebody’s home, and that you do so without being invited and without asking if you can enter. Your presence wouldn’t be very welcome, would it? And your relationship with the people living there would be damaged. I don’t know many people who literally enter another person’s home in that manner (except …

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Aug 25

When Interrupting is Effective Communication

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 We have all been taught that interrupting is rude and impolite. But that is not always the case. There are times when interrupting is both appropriate and effective, provided it is done skillfully. One such situation is when people are ‘circling’, that is, repeating the same information again and again and not adding anything new. …

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May 26

The Art Of Giving Advice – Part 1

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The Art Of Giving Advice involves mastering the ability to offer suggestions while avoiding the resentment that often accompanies unwelcome advice.  Below are eight keys that are essential to practice if you truly want to become a master of giving advice without getting shot. Art of Giving Advice Skill #1: “Listen First” Skilled communicators take …

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Feb 26

How To Give Advice-Listen, Empathize, Then Advise

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Do you know ”how to give advice”, without being on the receiving end of anger and resentment? There is often a temptation, when listening to others, to express our opinions about what they have done, what they could have done, and what they should do. Often, this stems from a genuine desire to be helpful.However, unless …

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