Category: Wisdom Nuggets

Feb 28

How To Be Compassionate In the Face of Difficult Behavior

February WISDOM NUGGET I was recently reading a fascinating book about the challenges faced by some men in finding love. Titled “When He’s Married To Mom”, by Dr. Kenneth Adams, the book is about what happens when a mother has a strained relationship with her husband, and begins looking to her young son to fill …

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Feb 26

Simple Ways To Make A Difference In People’s Lives

I want to first welcome the many new people who have signed up for this newsletter this month. Thank you for your interest. You can expect to receive Wisdom Nuggets 1-2 times a month, as well as information about upcoming tele-courses (Communicating with Compassion; How To Give Advice and Get Back Gratitude Not Attitude) and …

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Jan 28

Wisdom Nugget-A Key to Effective Communication:Listen First

by Bernard Uzi Weingarten   Ever wonder how to really help somebody when they come to you for advice? This story of a conversation I had with Sam, a long-time friend, illustrates one of the important keys of skillful, effective communication. Sam was telling me about his strained relationship with his brothers. “They keep me at …

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Dec 26

Living A Compassionate Life – Charity With Heart

In living a compassionate life, we are often presented with the opportunity to demonstrate charity and kindness to our fellow man.  I am blessed to have had man such opportunities, and there is one in particular that comes to mind. It was three years ago, at this time of year, and I was on my way …

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Nov 21

Communicating With Compassion – Setting Boundaries.

Communicating with compassion often means setting boundaries.  We don’t usually connect “kindness” and “boundary setting.” At least I didn’t for many years. I imagined that kindness is about listening with empathy, responding with compassion, treating others with dignity, doing random (and not so random) acts of kindness, and the like. What did this have to …

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Oct 23

Effective Communication: Knock Before Entering Don’t Give Advice Before You Do This One Thing—Part 2

So you already know that one of the key skills of giving advice is Ask or Have. That is, either Ask Permission to give advice or Have an Invitation. (You can read the first part this article here: Part 1.) That being said, there is a skillful and less skillful way to Ask Permission. Sometimes …

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Sep 23

Effective Communication:Knock Before Entering Before You Give Advice Be Sure To Do This One Thing–Part 1

Knock before entering

Imagine that you enter somebody’s home, and that you do so without being invited and without asking if you can enter. Your presence wouldn’t be very welcome, would it? And your relationship with the people living there would be damaged. I don’t know many people who literally enter another person’s home in that manner (except …

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Aug 25

When Interrupting is Effective Communication

 We have all been taught that interrupting is rude and impolite. But that is not always the case. There are times when interrupting is both appropriate and effective, provided it is done skillfully. One such situation is when people are ‘circling’, that is, repeating the same information again and again and not adding anything new. …

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Jul 25

Discounting is for Products not for People

Isn’t it great when you see a sale and that something you want has been discounted? I sure like seeing that. But in dealing with people and responding to their concerns, discounting is a mistake. I am reminded of this true story (names have been changed). I was attending a farewell party a while back …

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Jun 26

The Art Of Giving Advice – Part 2

In part two of The Art Of Giving Advice, we’ll take a look at four critical errors that are often made in the name of offering advice. Critical Advice Giving Mistake #1: Discounting “You shouldn’t feel that way” is an excellent way to shut down a conversation, cause people emotional pain and undermine relationships. Critical Advice Giving Mistake …

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