Category Archive: LISTENING SKILLS

Jan 28

Wisdom Nugget-A Key to Effective Communication:Listen First

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by Bernard Uzi Weingarten   Ever wonder how to really help somebody when they come to you for advice? This story of a conversation I had with Sam, a long-time friend, illustrates one of the important keys of skillful, effective communication. Sam was telling me about his strained relationship with his brothers. “They keep me at …

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Nov 21

Communicating With Compassion – Setting Boundaries.

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Communicating with compassion often means setting boundaries.  We don’t usually connect “kindness” and “boundary setting.” At least I didn’t for many years. I imagined that kindness is about listening with empathy, responding with compassion, treating others with dignity, doing random (and not so random) acts of kindness, and the like. What did this have to …

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Oct 23

Effective Communication: Knock Before Entering Don’t Give Advice Before You Do This One Thing—Part 2

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So you already know that one of the key skills of giving advice is Ask or Have. That is, either Ask Permission to give advice or Have an Invitation. (You can read the first part this article here: Part 1.) That being said, there is a skillful and less skillful way to Ask Permission. Sometimes …

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Apr 25

The Importance of Verifying in Effective Communicating

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                                                                                          The Importance Of Verifying In Effective Communication is absolutely vital  Too often, rather than verifying, we jump to conclusions about what may be really going on with the other person and/or what they are communicating to us. Below I share a recent experience that illustrates this. I was making conversation with Debbie, manager of …

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Mar 21

Listening Effectively: 3 Steps to Doing It Well

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Listening effectively is one of the best and most loving gifts that we can offer to another person. This is especially true when somebody is hurt or upset about something and shares it with us. All too often, in spite of our good intentions, we find ourselves responding to others in ways that are not …

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Feb 26

How To Give Advice-Listen, Empathize, Then Advise

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Do you know ”how to give advice”, without being on the receiving end of anger and resentment? There is often a temptation, when listening to others, to express our opinions about what they have done, what they could have done, and what they should do. Often, this stems from a genuine desire to be helpful.However, unless …

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